I do not know and understand what's wrong with JAKIM and the Malay Muslim mind. Enough of them being closeted but you must be able to do the right thing, although the right thing hurts. To hide under the skirt of the hukum syarak by saying the ruling does not exist is tantamount of going against the Prime Minister directive and the people's wish in this case the non muslim.

Let's read the article below and I will comment further
Converts need not inform family, say senior Jakim leaders


Posted by kasee
Tuesday, 29 April 2008
(The Star) PETALING JAYA: Senior Islamic leaders have rejected a proposal to require non-Muslims wishing to convert to Islam to inform their family before doing so.
Malaysian Islamic Development Department (Jakim) director-general Datuk Wan Mohamad Sheikh Abdul Aziz said this was decided at a recent conference in Seremban to streamline Syariah and civil laws.
The conference was attended by state legal advisors, muftis, syarie judges and Islamic department directors.
"Based on Syariah laws, there is no nas (quotations from the Quran to prove or settle a point) compelling a person wishing to convert to Islam to inform the family before doing so," Wan Mohamad said in a press statement yesterday.
The conference also decided that the need to inform loved ones should be left to the discretion of the person wishing to convert.
Wan Mohamad said present Syariah laws on conversion and related matters were sufficient and the present practices should be continued.
"Nevertheless, provisions for registration, custody and the education of converts need to be formulated in a more effective manner," he said.
Wan Mohamad added under the Syariah laws, the duties and responsibility of the convert towards his non-Muslim parents did not stop after the conversion.
"It is the unanimous conclusion of the conference members that the implementation of the proposal was unnecessary," said Wan Mohamad.
Prime Minister Datuk Seri Abdullah Ahmad Badawi had said the Government would introduce a regulation requiring non-Muslims wishing to convert to Islam to inform their family before doing so.
He said this would prevent problems of families disputing the conversion of their loved ones when they die.

Syariah law are base on the ideas of justice derive from the inspiration from the Quran as illuminated by the Sunnah and understood by the Ijma of the Ulamaks and the Qiyas. Ijtihad plays a big part in promugalating the laws of Syariah. Like laws it must be living, not a law that remain stagnated thus as time goes by new laws are promulgated base on the understanding of the above. Thus a living law is where the Syariah fail to achieve, now the laws are deem to be too rigid and thus suffocating. If Islam is to regain her lustre this need to be address sadly there is a lack of 'iktizam' or will by the educated class thus it leads to ideas which remain stupid. We must avoid hardship to others and we must at all times strive to be fair in our judgement.That is the pivotal role of any law be it Syariah or Secular. (I purposely avoid hadiths because hadiths the saying of the prophet is sometimes read verbatimly without understanding the historical perspective and climate when it was uttered. Thus Sunnah is better.) Promulgating procedural law is not against the Syariah and we should not hide suddenly behind human rights stating the fact that professing one's fatih and not divulging it to his family is his/her rights. To be fair, to profess any religion of your choice is a private matter but when it involve marriages i beg to differ. If it among children and parents thus the individual rights in not informing the family is understood but if he has a wife or husband professing his conversion is paramount for as Muslims we understand that the marriage is immediately annulled if the spouse does not convert.

Thus what JAKIM Director General state is full of ignorance. The Documents printed above are some injustice that have occurred when a spouse converted without telling his partner. when death occurs it hurts his family because of the tussle that arise. These incidents can be avoided if the Director General have the will to say the right thing and not uttered facts with prejudices.